So... How Did it Happen?

Fifteen to twenty years ago, if someone had told me I’d be writing in English for a living, I would have laughed at them. Right from kindergarten to high school, I studied in my native language. I was in a convent school, and though they tried to force us to speak in English, we never really tried hard. My life after schooling played a major role in polishing my fluency in English. I never thought, even in my wildest dreams, that this would be what I’d do someday—to earn money by writing and share my thoughts with a bunch of people. 

Today, when I read my blog, I am in awe of myself. Just like you, I read every one of my blogs as a reader and offer either productive criticism or honest compliments to myself. At times, I feel like an imposter because I keep asking myself how I do it and where these words even come from! It almost feels like someone else is writing for me. I’ve always been a sucker for an upgrade, level-up, or reformation, as an individual. 

However, I often I think about giving up on this blog, but something keeps calling me back. Sometimes, I feel my writing doesn't make the impact it should. But that's too big of an expectation, and it's unfair. 

From my first blog Love in comfort zone to date, It has been an upgrade or so I would like to think. Going through my blogs, I realized what a journey it has been. I’ve put out my frustration, expressed my love for an old lover, shared my disappointments, and whatnot. I realized that from a hopeless romantic, I’ve become a pragmatic person. And I fell in love with myself all over again! The power of words, indeed. I wanted to take an opportunity to revisit and share the stories behind some of my previous blogs. 

So I’m going to rewind a few of my favourites…

I wrote You may kiss the frogs long before the Queen of Random Things existed. One day, it just dawned on me that there’s no point in skipping bad choices in romantic life—you’re supposed to enjoy being with the wrong partner. The wrong partner can turn your life upside down or change you. But for me, the problem with those mistakes was that they were really good kissers—and I don’t regret kissing any of them!

The myth that needs to be addressed, was written exactly after my revenge episode with an ex-boyfriend. That was the one time I allowed my evil self to come out and let the guy pay for his actions. They say revenge is a dish best served cold—I say, serve it chilled, baby!

Damn you, self-confidence is close to my heart. I had finally cut ties with a narcissist—my first such experience. The whole episode destroyed me mentally, emotionally, and physically. It made me realize how important it is to have an understanding partner, because a toxic one can make your life a living hell. 

Decoding men for you, ladies, came into the picture because I felt bad that men (not boys) are always portrayed negatively. I wanted to use my long experience in dating and friendships to clarify the basics about the opposite gender—because men aren’t that complex or complicated.

My epiphany made me write Don't get married for 'Love'. I eventually fell out of love with the idea of love a couple of years ago and realized it’s overrated. I still stand by that statement and wouldn’t recommend anyone to marry for love. Rather, get married for understanding and respect. The by-product of love isn’t always understanding or respect—but you can surely love someone who understands and respects you.

I am proud of 50 shades of insecurities and that will remain one of my top favourites, because it was the piece that made me realize I wasn’t afraid of failure—I was afraid of not trying. And that mindset made me stand out from others.

My purest emotions surfaced in Keep your scuffle private & demonstrate success. I was finally able to put my raw feelings into words and, in the process, gave voice to so many people. That was the blog that made me believe I could write—and that I was capable of things far beyond what I knew at the time.

Have you hit your 'Age of Stagnation?' is another favourite. I never thought a cartoon (BoJack Horseman) would make me feel and think so deeply. It made me question a lot of things and opened my eyes to new perspectives.

Please read Peer pressure is killing the modern-day marriages if you’re of the age and planning to tie the knot. This blog was my way of looking at what society is doing to our generation. I finally decided to remove myself from the crowd.

People often ask how I write so well. I tell them—I turn my tangible thoughts into concrete words and publish them by wearing my heart on my sleeve. Maybe I was born to become the voice of your unspoken emotions. I can’t make you feel better every time something happens, but I can try to ensure you feel the warmth of my words. Just enough to know—you’re not alone.

I hope you enjoy my writing as much as I enjoy the process.

XOXO

The Queen of Random Things