'Love in Comfort zone' isn't that our motto these days?

Don't get offended by the title! 

Our generation and the coming generation have it easy and that's why love these days are in comfort zones. We choose a date by swiping right. We choose them by their pictures and the little information they decided to share. We have made it easy to get into a relationship and easier to get out of one thanks to social media, one-night stands, revenge sex and what not! I guess we are the generation who invented some of those things. 

Unlike olden times, there is hardly any venture to know the real person behind the face and laughter, there is upfront sex without any intimacy or romance. 

 

"I really wonder when did love change its meaning? ….. or we did? And so our generation has higher divorce rates because lesser people believe in fixing a relationship." 

Everyone is aware that there are more fish in the pond and that’s the reason it has become a trend to leave the relationship once things get rocky. I am not sure if our generation is aware of compromise and being the bigger person in a relationship! I wish there was a thrill like before to talk to each other and send notes, goosebumps only by the thought of meeting each other and making efforts to spend some quality time. These days it seems like technology and social media has killed the sheer joy of such little things and with that the connection point between two people, where they can link each other with unspoken words. 

If only I could go back in time, in a world where there is still value for love and efforts and the thing called ‘trophy partner’ isn't invented yet! A world where people could still get butterflies on holding each other hands and when sex was a gesture of love rather than lust and pleasure. At times, I really feel sad about not being born in the olden times. I believe the love then was pure and wasn’t filtered. It was just simply LOVE. Love then was charming and exciting. Moreover, it was unconditional!!!!

I pity the generation where people aren't loyal in a marriage and that is termed normal these days in a world where everything and everyone is allowed to have an identity, I guess love lost its own identity. "There is something wrong about our generation that there are so many broken hearts but all you see is smiling faces" isn't it expressed correctly? Fixing a problem by talking and expressing is a way to allow a relationship to grow. And I say the day our generation understood this basic thing with their heart half of their issues will be resolved then and there.    

We have forgotten the essence of growth in love, which doesn’t always have to be by being with the person. Growing apart also means love, wishing the best also means love, dying for love also means love, sacrificing also means love. The passion of love isn’t only in getting married and having children, but the passion of love is to keep the love between the two alive even after years and allow it to bloom inside your heart in a shape of prayer or like English movies say 'Till death do us part'.

There is no Mister or Miss RIGHT, there is always going to be someone who will be better in every way than the one you have by your side! But you have to make peace with the fact and accept that this is your person no matter how beautiful or tall or dark or handsome someone else is. This is your person, your home where both of you can get wiser and older together.

 

"Allow Love to grow on you, You can never love in comfort zone!!"