You may kiss the frogs

It is the last day of 2019; I am sitting in my room and sipping Kashmiri kahwa in the afternoon of windy winters. Oh! It feels so good and cosy in my warm winter blanket that it is almost impossible for one to get out of. The sun is shining bright, it is a pleasant day.

I love winters for so many reasons, that the list can practically go on. As a kid, I always used to love summers, due to vacations and no studies. It was adulthood that made me realize that winter is the real hero. Winter reminds me of amazing things like; good food, hot chocolate, layers of clothes with the best trends, knee-length boots, pretty caps, less sweat during workouts and of course lastly, Having someone!!

It is so crazy that it almost feels like a curse to be single during this season. This brings me to my favourite topic of all the time; Dating!!

We are always asked to stay careful while giving our hearts, just so; it doesn’t break! But let’s say it, what is good without bad? And that's why we fall into a pit, just like that!! Ladies, we do have a 6th sense of knowing the wrong guy, the guy we shouldn’t be with, the guy we shouldn’t be talking to, the guy we shouldn’t be falling for. But we still tend to. Even though our mind says no, dil hai ke manta nahi! (Right?!)

Let’s talk about the wrong guy we ought to choose over all the reasonable points. Isn’t the wrong guy so funny that he makes you laugh uncontrollably, has perfect shoulders to bury yourself into, or that he gets you chocolates and the way he looks at you sends a tingle to your body. Yes, we have all met this dreamy, charming, smooth guy in our life. He is difficult to resist; may be because we met him after a break-up, or he made us feel special when we were degrading our-self! Isn’t it funny that the wrong guy knows what exactly to say to make us feel pretty and put a smile on our faces? I mean how can you really stop yourself from not thinking about kissing him and silently praying to god, “Please, God let him be the one”. Reality check, he isn’t the one!

But let me tell you, he isn’t exactly a bad idea! I mean come on, once in a while in this busy world of money there is no harm forgetting your stress by meeting someone totally wrong; flirting so hard, that it makes you feel younger! It isn’t an exactly bad choice to sleep with a total douche yet attractive looking guy after an ugly break-up only to feel beautiful. If you enjoyed kissing the totally wrong guy which you initiated while you are single, you deserve a treat from time to time.

The wrong guy may not be the one but he makes you feel pretty, confident, independent, bold and he appreciates your wits. He will not give you any commitment or a name to the relation, but he will give you satisfaction to your ego, to your broken heart. He will not marry you, but he will try to bring the naughty side of you to the surface for you to explore. 

If you come to think of it, the beauty of being a woman is to enjoy as many wrong guys as you can to uplift yourself!

Make him do the work ladies! Let him make you feel special! Let him bring you gifts! Let him book the room and ask you out! Let him take you on a drive and kiss you! At last, I know, all that is only to get into pants. But don’t tell me you did not see it coming or don't enjoy it!!!!!!

I say the wrong is perfect for; when you want to boost your ego, when you are not over your ex who treated you wrong, when felt an urge to get laid, when you wanted to give your mind flirting exercise. We all need to meet this wrong guy on and off, to rejoice ourselves. Who needs a therapy session when someone can make you feel sexy just like that!!!!

So I say, kiss the frogs till the time you meet your prince charming! There is no harm in trying different varieties of cuisine; until you know which one suits you the best. You will be amazed to explore things about yourself from someone else’s point of view.

PS: Meet him, be with him, let go of him. Don’t linger on him! Let him make you feel YOU ARE AMAZING JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!