Last month, I read A Tale of Time Being by Ruth Ozeki. It was a well-written fiction novel with a skillful mixture of Zen practice and Science theory. When I picked up the book, I wasn't sure what to expect, and the universe indeed surprises you when you least expect it. The climax had me hooked and increased the value of the process. In other words, it was worth my while.
The ending plays an important role in almost everything. When was the last time you were taken aback by the climax of a movie or a play? As if, you went inside the theater thinking it's a romantic movie with a dramatic ending, but ended up witnessing a jaw-dropping shocker. That's what we call a well-written and directed movie. The ending can change the whole narrative of the journey and leave a lasting impression.
And I guess that goes for relationships as well. I don't think, the first impression is the last impression. It doesn't matter how you start a relationship because the journey and the end give you a chance to change the perspective of a relationship. Maybe I am talking about closure, which sometimes I think is overrated. I think it's essential to end relationships on a neutral note, if not on a positive note.
We live in a world where we make thousands of relationships, we break some and we carry some. That doesn't mean the broken ones are unworthy or less important. Maybe the role of the person is over, or maybe it was supposed to be a chapter. Some people come in the form of experiences that stay with us and change us. And some people come like a breath of fresh air and leave in a fraction of a second.
How we remember them depends a lot on the goodbye and how they made us feel. We cannot control their decision of treating us, but we can decide the nature of goodbye. You can either create chaos, make it painful, and convert it into a bitter memory, or you can make peace with the fact that it ends here and act maturely. No, it is not everyone's cup of tea. Nor it can be applicable to everyone.
I believe, how you end a relationship tells a lot about how you feel and think about the person. Goodbyes aren't supposed to be happy, but if left on a harsh note, it can spoil memories for both. Our brain strikes out bad memories and starts to suppress such memories. It becomes difficult for suppressed memories to resurface without any reminders. Eventually, we either forget the person or unintentionally remove the good memories, too.
Ruth Ozeki could have written a normal ending, but she decided to put a twist at the end and ensure that readers revisit the whole plot while finishing the book. Just like that, no matter how ugly things get, parting ways respectfully can enhance the experience and growth of an individual. Also, it becomes easier to move on from that person and remember them with a smile on a face.
That's why I insist everyone not fight at the end and apologize to avoid future unpleasantries. No need to create a scene, argue, and fight. Just leave quietly without making a noise, and becoming difficult to reach, making sure your self-respect isn't compromised. Therefore, the climax is the most important thing out of all!
Until next time,
xoxo
The Queen of Random Things
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