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And then we stopped talking... Just like that!!!!!!!!!

"One day, you will realize you lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones." That's exactly what I felt at the end of 2021 when one of my friends failed to understand that I really needed her. 


We outgrow people-school friends, college friends, previous company friends, previous-neighbour friends and many more. You might still have their contact details, but the chemistry isn't the way it used to be. Conversations, mindsets, thought processes, personal and professional growths evolve and sometimes you can't catch up even if you desire to do so. Eventually, the essence of friendship fades away, if swift actions aren't taken; leaving behind a courtesy relationship that you cannot deny or avoid. 

On another note, I've lost a couple of friends over what they'd consider trivial matters but I deem as basic. Last I checked, friends are a part of personal life. So when one of my friends said, "I didn't want to get into your personal space," I gave her all the space she needed. Loosely translated, she preferred not to make an effort to understand what was wrong between us or with me. If you're a friend (to anyone), you inherently gain certain rights and privileges, like invading extra privacy, making fun at self-made problems and poor choices, calling after a fight to argue about how long the silent treatment will last, and much more.

The most essential aspect of human life is growth! We keep growing as an individual. When someone doesn't reach the level of emotional and personal maturity, we tend to create distance. Disagreements can be cleared through clear communication, but even friendship demands nurturing. 

People tend to romanticize romantic relationships, but they put minimum to no effort into friendship. I am not sorry, but that's not how it is supposed to be. If someone has been there for you during your darkest times, picking up your 2 AM call and comforting your tears, don't they deserve better treatment? This is why many lose their friends when they enter romantic relationships—they forget the world beyond their partner. You don't have to take my word for it; multiple studies support this claim.

I've learned it the hard way, but if your friend isn't treating you right, talk it out. Don't let it slide—by expressing and accepting, you teach them how to treat you. I've had enough of certain friends (mostly females) who fail to set boundaries or establish priorities. Therefore, I've made peace with their immaturity and one-sided behaviour, putting an end to those connections. Trust me, people don't like tasting their own medicine. And then we stopped talking... Just like that!

Until Next time,

The Queen of Random Things
xoxo









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